I am not happy with my newborn babies name that my husband chose. HOW DO I GET OVER IT?

I'm ok with the first name but I LOATHE the second name. I had a c-section and we had to fill out a health card form so it was all a bit of a rush. I'm not happy with the name. How can I be happy in knowing that my husband is at least happy with the choice?

I am not happy with my newborn babies name that my husband chose. HOW DO I GET OVER IT?
What was the rush? I don't think you're required to have a name by the time the child is born. I do believe that you have several days to choose a name.





I do think your husband was taking advantage of the fact that you were unable to share your feelings on this.





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I WAS sympathizing with you until I read again and saw that this is the child's second name. Now I have to say; "Get over it" middle names are supposed to suck.
Reply:You dont have to use the second name. Where I live it is traditional to name your kids after the grandparents. For me all of which are names I do not like. So I broke tradition and named her something I ldid like. However some times I feel bad because I know now that they were just names I could have chose one of 4 without complaining.


You should discuss this with your husband because the child belongs to both of you. Congratulations and enjoy your baby regardless of the name which I am curious what it is but everyone has his or her own tastes.
Reply:There's not really a prescription for getting over something like that. If you don't like it now, you probably never will like it. The bad news is that you'll also probably resent your husband for it. Plus, every time you say your baby's name, you'll think about how much you don't like the name. Hopefully, once you get to know and love your child as that person with that name, it could grow on you. Because then, it's not just a name, it's your child.





Maybe if you have another child, let your husband you want it to be a team effort.





There's always legal name changing! :)
Reply:I have the same problem and my daughter is three months old! I love her name but I hate the way we spell it! Her name is La'Nae, we named her after my husbands sister who passed away and we spelled it the same way but I absolutely hate the spelling! It's dumb in my opinion! But it was really important for my husband so I went with it. Now I'm kicking myself for it. I think over time it will get better. At least for you it's the middle name and nobody ever hears it! Just think, almost half the population have a stupid middle name! Also, something my husband and I did, was we agreed since he named this baby I get to name the next and pick the spelling. he he, that's very comforting to me! :)
Reply:I wasn't happy with my firstborn's first name, either. My husband had it picked out before we even met, and it was VERY important to him, so I agreed. As the child grew and we bonded and now of course I love my son very much, I couldn't imagine him with any other name, that's just who he is, and I'm fine with it.
Reply:Why don't you two discuss why he likes the name and why you loathe it. Perhaps you can come up with a compromise such as if he liked Charles and you hated it, you could ask about Chauncy (Chon-cee) or a name similar that you like that he is lso happy about. Besides, you have to go through the pain of having the baby, shouldn't you like the name? Exactly! Thanks!
Reply:You can always change the name by deed poll if you hate it that much.


My Grand daughters middle name is called after my son in laws mother (whom he never speaks to)! and I hate that name so I just never say it! I hate the name as he is bad to my daughter! Of course I am not the parent in that case!


Names do mean a lot but wait until your hormones are better before you make any decisions but I really HATE controlling husbands more than anything.
Reply:Well there isn't much you can do but to forgive him for it and try to not think of it. At least it is the second name and not the first. If it bothers you that much talk to your husband about getting it changed. Sorry I couldn't help out anymore. God bless and Congrads
Reply:it his second name not his last name or his first so don't worry so when you sigh him up for school and stuff don't put his middle name the sign out. also you probably should have put the babies fist name middle name and last cause i am a little confused is loathe his middle or last
Reply:No!!! Its your baby too, and you also need to be happy. If you hate the middle name than legally change it, its not a big deal to change it. Just call vital statistics and they will direct you on what you need to do. Your baby wont know and its your right as a parent to change your babies name!!!!
Reply:You don't get over it! You have to talk to him about it. Is it a family name or a name he just picked out of a book? I don't think there is anything wrong with changing the baby's name if you can come up with a name you BOTH agree on! I had a c-section too so I understand how that whole day is kind of a fog for you. I would be honest with your husband.
Reply:You don't really use the middle name anyway so you probably won't think of it much anyway.





Tell us what name he chose and why. That might help us help you :) Is it a family name that means a lot to your husband?Maybe it will come to mean a lot to your son when he's older.
Reply:What's the name? This is why you should never let one of the parents name the child. I think both should always agree on the name. This is something you should have talked about sooner. At least you like the first name, and really, who uses their middle name on a regular basis?
Reply:Its his/her middle name. Not that big of a deal. Most people will never know what it is. Baby will spend most of his/her life simply using an initial for the middle name.
Reply:you need to find him a cute nickname like





James Christopher----JC


Thomas Jacob- TJ/Tommy/Tommy-Jay





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Reply:In time, perhaps you will become used to it. Why didn't he consult you before filling that out. A little more information may have been helpful. Just try to learn to like the name! Srry
Reply:You can change the name. Tell your husband that you could like to come up with something you can both live with. Or just give it a nick name.
Reply:Nn the baby with something generic--Tiger, Sport, Guy, etc. And call him that.





Let Dad know that the next one is yours.





TX Mom



Reply:maybe u can forget about it by having a pet name instead of calling the baby the name u dislike! like just say sweetie or some nice lil name. that way u dont call him his disliked name, or just ask to have it changed.!
Reply:What is the name? You can always have the name changed!
Reply:You can always call your baby a nickname... maybe something short for his/her name - or even go by the middle name.
Reply:Just get over it. You aren't the only parent involved. Things can't be all your way.
Reply:its just a middle name. its his choice too, if you love the first name then dont worry about the second name =].
Reply:He's just a newborn. It's not too late to change it if you're really that unhappy with it.
Reply:Would be easier to answer if we knew the name.
Reply:you gotta deal with it if you like the first name and your husband likes the middle, then it works out ok
Reply:Get rid of the husband and change the name



Reply:Slap him silly and you will feel a lot better. It works for my mom.
Reply:It's just the middle name..try to not worry about it too much because it is the first name that really matters.
Reply:welll, whats the name?
Reply:get over it!