Husband's say in a babies name?

My wife wants to name our child either Isabella Rowan or Jackson Avery.


I don't like Avery or Rowan. Shouldn't I be able to veto these instead of just going along with it? It's my kid too, but to be honest, she's been pretty moody lately, and don't know how to approach it. Advice?

Husband's say in a babies name?
My husband and I feel that we should both like the names chosen. We each have a list of names we like and we can cross names off of the other person's list. Only the names that we both like are options.





I think you should be honest and try to help her see your feelings. I'm sure that if she thought about it she wouldn't want to her daughter to have a name that she doesn't like 100% and that you should be afforded the same respect. Just wait until she feels more relaxed and approach it by complimenting the first name that she chose (Isabella or Jackson). Ask her what other names she likes aside from Avery and Rowan and let's pray that you like some of her other choices!
Reply:It is your kid to and yes you should have a say in it. My advice would be if you don't like the name Rowan or Avery would be to look at different baby middle names and come up with some middle names that you would be happy with. You might then be able to come up with a name that you both like and that you'll both be happy with. I wouldn't want my child to have a first or middle name that I didn't like seeing as how you're naming this child for life unless the child decides to get her name changed later in life. I hope you can come up with a middle name that you both will be happy with.
Reply:You should have a say, but find a middle name that you both agree on. Try combining those names to get a unique one. She's moody because she's pregnant, and it just happens. Try and tell her when she's happy and then tell her you would prefer a different name. Have one on hand, in case she asks you. Then, if she gets upset, tell her you're sorry, and that you didn't mean to upset her, you were just offering a suggestion. Then say that you would like to pick a name together, and that all the other names were beautiful, but you wanted to know all of your options. If she's still gets upset, then apologize again and offer another solution. Then if it still doesn't work, tell her to sleep on it and see how she likes the idea. Hope I helped!!








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Reply:To be honest, the best thing to do is just to talk to her. Tell her that you respect her opinion, but would like a say in your child's name as well. When I was pregnant with my first child, I absolutely hated the names my husband came up with, while he didn't like my choice. We finally compromised and picked Katheryn Diana -- I liked the name Katherine and he thought it was too unoriginal, so we spelled it differently, and Diana's just a family name that we decided to use. Then for our second child we agreed upon Shane as a first name and I let him pick Cooper for the middle name. It all worked out pretty well. Just try and reach a compromise that you'll both be happy with. (:
Reply:Yes, you should have a say. Like you said, it's your child too. If you don't like a name then you shouldn't use it. Find something you both like and go with that. If you like Isabella and Jackson, suggest other middle names that you like. Both parents should like the name. I would just try to talk to her when she's not as moody. Just approach it carefully. Maybe if you suggest other middle names she'll like those more than Rowan and Avery.





Never been in this situation so I'm probably no help, good luck though!
Reply:I believe that you should have a say in what you want to name your child. I, honestly, like the names Isabella and Jackson, but the middle names do not match up!





The reason why she is moody is because of the harmones. She doesn't love you any less, it's just that way during pregnancy. I think the best way is to sit down with her, maybe when she isnt' at her moodiest, and talk to her. Tell her how you feel.





It is obviously upsetting you that you can't have a hand in namnig your child. Strike a deal with her. Have her name the baby's first name and you choose the second. That way you both have a hand in naming the child!





Good luck and Merry Christmas!
Reply:Yeah, you should have a say=]





Just explain to your wife that you don't like the middle names, make a compromise, choose a similar name that you like, or an entirely new name that you both like. Make a list of middle names you like and come to her with it, she will be impressed that you want to be a part of naming the baby!
Reply:I don't think you should get absolute veto power, but I do believe you should definitely have a say. My husband offers no suggestions himself, just wants to veto everything. This makes me crazy, and if you are doing this, then NO you don't get a say. lol Come up with a few names yourself and run them by her so you can work together on a compromise.
Reply:My daughter's name is Avery. It's become a pretty common girls name. There are two other female Avery's in my playgroup and they're all within a 5 month age span of each other.





My husband named the older two daughters, and picked the middle name for Avery. Avery Rose. As long as I liked the sound of the name, I was OK with it. I wanted to name our last daughter either Acacia or Aydan, but when she was born, she was an Avery after all.
Reply:BE NICE :)


but say honey, i believe i get a say in this child name because i made an effort to put this bun in your oven :D





let her pick a first name, and you the middle.


then on the next kid, you can name the first and she can name the middle.


:)





or you can simply flip a coin.
Reply:shes pregnant so shes bound to be moody. dont bring it up. wait until after the baby is born and discuss it. you might want to compromise maybe isabella jackson thats cute and its got both names in it.





dont stress over it. you shouldnt give in cause its your kid and you dont wanna name it something you dont like but be gentle about it. mention it every once in a while and explain that relationships are about compromise.





good luck and congrats
Reply:Yeah you should have a say in the babys name its also yours. In my case my husband already chose the names for a girl and a boy. and i let him since im carrying the child i can at least give him that. i want him to feel part of this pregnancy to. Just ask her kindly hunny can i speak to your regarding the names. just tell her i really dont like the names. she should understand. good luck!!
Reply:Honestly tell her your feelings about it. You do have a say in, why doesn't she choose the first name and you choose the middle or vice versa. With my husband and myself, he named my daughter and we said when I got pregnant again, the choice would be mine.





Best of luck and Merry Christmas
Reply:Middle names don't really matter.





I think you should just give in to her wishes. She is the one who is carrying the child after all.





Now for the first names, then I think you should have veto power.





Isabella is a really common name, too. Ranked #2 for 2007.
Reply:Yes you should have a say in it. My husband definitely had a say in naming our daughter, you will have to just tell her that you don't like the names and want to compromise, or you could find a list of middle names that you like and be like "what do you think of this as a middle name?"
Reply:The decision as to what your Child's name is going to be should be a shared decision. That's what my Husband %26amp; I did. . we worked it out together.
Reply:Ask if you can "help her" choose a middle name. Say that u want to help, not that you deserve a say. That would tick her off. Or come to her with a list of middle names you like for Isabella and Jackson.
Reply:Talk to her about it, and how you should have a say in it too. Maybe think of some other middle names that you actually like and show her them. But she might get mad because shes the one pushing your child out of her.
Reply:Is it really that important to you? If so, I say dad should have input, but remember, they're middle names that no one will ever really know. You might want to let your wife have this one.
Reply:Your right!!!!, I think Rowan is a bit like Mr. Bean and Avery (BIRDS!!!)





Isabella Rowina and Jackson Hayden???





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Reply:Tell her that while you respect her opinion, you would like to keep your options open just incase one or both of you think of better middle names that will mak the first names even prettier/handsomer.
Reply:Tell her and get a baby name book, they have so exotic but cool names and their origins and meanings. Why not pick middle names from where your from (spanish, greek, italian)
Reply:name ur child jackson michael