Husband wants to choose babies name, im not convinced, what do i do???HELP lol?

well i named our first child of course! exciting, and he chose the middle name for our 1st





now he is saying that he should choose the first name and i should choose themiddle name, i want to be fair, but he is picking names i dont like one bit





he wont compromise, hes a hard head, what do i do???





id hate to go behind his back on something so special





any advice??





-Maria thanks!

Husband wants to choose babies name, im not convinced, what do i do???HELP lol?
If you want to be "fair"- you should let him choose this Baby's name. If NOT, %26amp; you want a big fight- then insist on YOUR way, and HOPE He gets over it. (Because if He doesn't- you may never have a 3rd Baby to worry having this problem about).
Reply:Well, my husband didn't have the patience to go through a book and pick a name (he wanted names of his heritage...Scottish, Irish, Gaelic or Celtic...but didn't want to look for them). What I did, and you could do, is make a LIST of names that you like and have him pick the one he likes, or visa versa. I had two pages of various baby names, both boys and girls (we were having twins but didn't know the sexes yet, so ours was even harder, because we had to agree on four names...with four additional names as middle names...lol). Just take your time and talk about it. You have to remember that this kid has to live with this name for the REST of his life. We wanted ours to be different, but not ridiculous. We finally chose Ewan Murdoch (you-in mer-dock) and Eagan Murphy (ee-gan mer-fee)! :)
Reply:let him pick but just remind him the child has to live with the name the rest of his life or call your husband by the name he picked for a week to see if you both like that's what i did and he changed his mine after 3 days.good luck.
Reply:You both need to agree on a name. Having one parent chose on his/her own isn't fair.
Reply:My husband and I had such a hard time coming up with a middle name for our baby,we were literally passing the baby name book back and forth during labor!My advise to you is get a baby name book and both of you look through it(separately) underlining the names you like then pass it to the each other until you can agree.It worked for us and we tried to find a name for this baby for 8 months!
Reply:well i dont have any children but i do have a husband and he says i can choose the names of our future children because im going to give birth to it... and fortunately we have similar taste when it comes to names.. id say you should only put your foot down if you think the child is going to be traumatized by the name.
Reply:we drew names from a hat that is how we named our last 2 kids
Reply:one person choosing a name seems kind of selfish to me. the child is part of both of you. you should both agree on the name, first and middle.





seems to me he didn't particularly like the name of the first child, which may be why he is being so stubborn about this one.
Reply:You should definitely agree on a name before giving it to your child.
Reply:You need to find a name you both agree upon. Just stick to your guns. You BOTH need to compromise ... that's what makes a relationship work. I WOULD NEVER name my child a name that I didn't like. That's just silly! Good luck!
Reply:i have to wonder if maybe he didn't like your first child's name and now he's getting back at you for that
Reply:If you chose your first babies name, then you've got to be fair and let him choose the second. The thing is, you've still both got to like the names which is important. Compromise is the key. Tell him that you're happy for him to come up with names but you get to help choose off his list. Good luck.
Reply:Did he 100% love the name you picked for the first child? If he didn't, then its only fair.





If you're really adamant and want to get back at his hard head, say "if you want that for the first name, then I'll pick [insert really ugly name here] for the middle name" and see if that gets him.





My mom knows a woman who couldn't come to an agreement with her husband, so she sent him to get her some food and filled out the birth certificate with her name choice while he was gone! I don't recommend this though ;-)





My best friend's husband picked their baby's first name and she didn't like it at first but now she loves it and the name really suits him.





Good luck!
Reply:it only fear maybe you can figure out a name that he likes and you like
Reply:Those sort of "arrangements" always come back to bit you, don't they? ;)





I'm assuming from your wording that you had a bit of an understanding last time around, and he's just trying to collect now that baby #2 is on the way? In that case -- although I normally wouldn't recommend the "I name this one, you name the next" type of agreement -- I have to recommend you defer to him a bit on this one. But with LIMITS!





You do need to have veto power. As the child's mother, you need to actually like the name chosen. After all, you'll be using it on a daily basis for many years to come! Just as I'm certain you didn't choose a name your husband truly hated for your first child. ;)





So it seems the only fair solution would be to discuss the names together, eliminate any EITHER of you don't care for and allow your husband the final say once you've narrowed it down to a short list. That way, he still gets to actively choose the name, but it will be one you can BOTH appreciate. ;) And good luck, by the way!
Reply:he's right.
Reply:Well, turnabout is fair play. If you named the first, then why shouldn't he get to name the second?
Reply:if you want to be a baby about , remind him you are the one giving birth, and the last name is his. to be fair....i repeat FAIR...the agreement should stand. you chose the first name and he chose the middle last time, turn about is fair play. he picks the first name and you pick the second. problem solved. did he like the name you picked last time??? you did not mention that...
Reply:You both need to compromise
Reply:I have 3 boys and the first one my husband and I agreed on the first name but I chose the middle name. On the second child he chose the first name and I picked the middle and the last one we chose the first name and I chose the middle name. It's all about compromise. He shouldn't want to name the baby something that your not going to like. You should be willing though to come to some type of an agreement. Like if he likes the name Jacob and you don't settle on Jake. or something similar. Hope it helps. Choosing a name is important since they will be stuck with it for the rest of their lives.
Reply:I think you should let him pick and find a middle name that sounds good with what ever he picks. He is the babies dad and should get a chance.
Reply:Well, sorry to say, but it's his child too! It is only fair that he gets a say in the name but if you really hate everything he's chosen he needs to respect that too!