Which is a better idea- to discuss baby name choices with family and friends or to keep them a secret?

What are your opinions and experiences? What do you think?





What is most common nowadays? Has sharing or not sharing names changed over time or remained the same? How so?

Which is a better idea- to discuss baby name choices with family and friends or to keep them a secret?
Well, you see how people react to some name choices on here. Depending on who you share with you could experience that same type of critisism in person. Or if you know someone else who's expecting they could steal your ideas. So it really depends on who you're sharing with and whether or not you're prepared to deal with those types of situations.
Reply:Many families want their name passed to grandchildren. If you want your child's name to be totally original (or not end up with a name like Gertrude) keep it secret. However, your family may have some beautiful names that they wish to pass to the next generation. It all depends on your relationship with your family and how you expect them to react if you don't pick their name!





As for friends-- their input can be helpful in determining what NOT to name your baby. Friends may want you to pass their name on to your child, which can be a BAD idea!





In either instance, be prepared for criticism, but don't take it the wrong way. All of their input will help you decide on the best choice.
Reply:if you discuss with your family and friends be ready for the suggestions and criticism. i personally would wait until you think you have chosen a name and or very serious about it. than discuss it with them, that way your not having to hear about everyone elses opinion.
Reply:Keep it a secret. Otherwise, they'll comment negatively and you'll end up changing the name at the last minute to serve their wishes.





I told 2 people ahead of time. My sister gasped when I told her the name. That's BEAUTIFUL!! she said.





TX Mom



Reply:depends on what you want. some people get ideas from other people, some share with family and get their opinions, some people keep it to themselves because they don't want to know anyone elses opinion, want to keep it a suprise.
Reply:i think sharing is a great idea!! i am constantly asking my mom and my fiance's parents about names ive come up with. i believe its just how well you get along w/ your family and how their judgment effects you.
Reply:keep them a secret... everyone will always have an opinion, I mean if you really like the names... just surprise everyone after the baby is named :)
Reply:Secret. We shared with the first child. Let me tell you, people are rude. We kept it a secret the second time. Much less irritating.