What should the babies last name be?

I'm pregnant and not married to my boyfriend (the babies father). The question I have, what last name should the baby have, the father's or mine? I know, stupid question, but I really don't know.

What should the babies last name be?
Yours.





It's a personal decision, but, IMO, yours.





Why?





For several reason.





A. You're not married.


Even if you think you're going to get married, if that happens, change the name then.


My son's father and I were practically engaged when my son was born, but I still gave him my last name. And guess what? We ended up breaking up. And I'm VERY glad he has my last name. You will be primarily raising him. Give him your last name





B. It's complicated if he has a different last name than you.


Especially at Dr.s appointments. (requires extra ID, it's a big pain a lot of times)





C. People will call YOU by that last name.


If your name is Cindy Johnson, and you have a baby with John Smith, and you name your son Jimmy Smith, people are going to call you "Mrs. Smith"


But you're not Mrs. Smith. You're MISS Johnson.


Moms at daycare/preschool are all going to call you Mrs. Smith.


And it'll annoy you after a while.








Again, up to you, but I say, if you're not married, he should have your last name.


I gave my son MY last name and I'm VERY glad I did.


My friend gave her daughter the father's last name, and regrets it a lot.





Best of luck!
Reply:That's up to you. That's something you'd have to talk about with your child's father. If you're in a stable relationship, and want to marry this guy than I'd give the baby his last name. If you don't see a future with him, give the child your last name. But like i said, that's something other people can't help you with. That's your call.
Reply:Nothing against the father but give the baby your last name. It will be easier down the line to change to the fathers name if you got married then it is to change back to your own if you didnt stay with the dad. Many dads become dead beats (nothing personal men) so would u really want them to have his name.
Reply:It can be either. How does you b/f feel about this? I'm not married to my babies father but he or she will have his last name. I know that he will be there for the baby for his or hers whole life. My sister didn't give her daughter her father's last name because she knew he was a deadbeat. She said it was the best thing she could have done.
Reply:depends...


This is going to sound horrible, but is the baby's father someone who will stick around? Someone you would plan on marrying or common law?


If it was me, I would put the baby under my name and if you married or later on decided to change it you could! It's really simple!


That's my opinion!


Good Luck!
Reply:Its really up to what you to think. If you see yourself being with this guy for a while you may want to use his, but then again if i got pregnant and was unmarried my child is always going to have the same last name i had that what im doing. Im kinda in the same situation and have thought it out.
Reply:My partner and I are engaged and have a four month old baby - she has her Dad's name.


On the other hand, I have my mum's surname because she knew my dad would never see me.


Even if my partner and I were separate (highly unlikely but anyway), he'd still be involved so that's how it is for us anyway.
Reply:What ever yours is. Because you could at some time break up with your boyfriend and it would be an memory.


But it's your choice.
Reply:If you are a single and know that the father is NOT gonna hang around then you should put YOUR last name.
Reply:I gave my baby my last name, which in retrospect I'm glad I did...her father has very little to do with her.





EDIT: Did The PostW REALLY just call our kids "bastards"???
Reply:Well since ur not married i would think baby should have UR name, i know i would do the same thing with mine..:)!
Reply:Usually in the event that a child is born out a wedlock (a 'bastard' child), it often takes the name of the mother.