Sunday, November 15, 2009

Do birth parents name their babies before giving them up for adoption?

Obviously everyone is different, so im asking for personal experiences here. I have no idea if my birth parents gave me a name, I know my a/p's gave me my christian name and thats my name as far as im concerned, i love it and would never change it. but do birth moms/dads give their baby a name even if they know they are going to be giving her away to someone else?

Do birth parents name their babies before giving them up for adoption?
I named my son in 1966 and years later when we reunited, i got a copy of his obc. The name i gave him was on it. Of course his adoptive parents changed his name totally.
Reply:It all depends on the birth parents. Some do and some don't, everyone is different. In my situation my biological parents split up shortly after my mom found out she was pregnant and the they both decided that they didn't want the each other to raise me on their own so my mom gave me up, but they had each chosen their own names for me. My dad said he was thinking of Nichole and my mom was going to name my Shannon if she kept me.





Of course after my AP got me they named me Jennifer and immediately had my birth certificate changed and put their names on it. Apparently they didn't want me to have anything to do with my biological mom.





There's a good change that your BP chose a name for you but everyone is different so it's hard to say.








Ok I have a question for you now.


Have you ever considered looking for your birth parents?
Reply:when I gave birth to my son in 1966 I had every intention


of bring him home of course I named him he is my child,


just because I was coerced into signing the papers does not mean


I should not name him,on all the papers I have it has the name I gave him and my name also in the city of n.y. in the main library on 42st


they have a book for every year a child is born in nyc in that book it is


MY NAME NEXT TO HIS you can alter the obc but you can't alter


who the mother is
Reply:Some do, some don't. Since we had an open adoption for our son, his first mom %26amp; I had chosen his name together, and she put it on his original birth certificate, along with my last name. Ironically, we also chose a name together for his bio sister that she decided to keep, and she kept that name, even though it was after my Grandpa.





I've seen some birh cerificates filed, and basically, they'll have Baby Smith (or whatever the mother's name is).
Reply:My mother did.





My a-parents gave me a completely different name but, as I was adopted in a CLOSED adoption (during the BSE), my APs didn't know the name my mother gave me.





I actually have 3 full names -- as my father also chose one that was different from the one my mother called me.





It's possible that I have another. I have not, as yet, located my foster carers and I'm sure they must have called me something as I was with them for several weeks.





Things that make you go "Hmmmmmmm..."
Reply:In the UK when the natural mother registers the birth of her child she generally names her child at the same time. I did even though my mother tried to persuade me not as we knew it was likely his name would changed. As it turned out his first name was changed, middle name kept as it's his adad's first name.





My son searched for me but I found him as he joined a site and used his original name so within half an hour of me joining I found him. I wasn't actively searching which made it even more special. However I do call him by his adoptive first name, his original is private to me.
Reply:My daughter's mom chose not to name the baby, although she was asked if she wanted to. So the original birth certificate says "baby girl {last name}" . We named her the day after she was born, and she has always been called that, although it didn't become legal until her adoption was finalized at 8 mo. Her new birth certificate has the name we gave her (plus it looks like I gave birth to her in georgia - kind of wierd).
Reply:I was given a name before I was adopted. It was Cherry....so as far as I'm concerned it's totally fine that my adoptive parents changed my name to Margarette (Maggie). Not that Cherry is a bad name, it's just not for me. I was not adopted until I was over a year old though...so it's kind of impossible to not give a child that old a name haha.
Reply:My biological parents named me before I was put into foster care right after birth. Then when I was adopted by my foster parents I was still only two, then combined my first name, and middle name my biological parents gave me, then added their own choice for a middle name, after my adoptive mother's mom.





Some biological parents name the child, some do not.
Reply:Grapesgum-How do you know and how can you say that with such certainty? I am an AP and ASKED to have the natural parents help name and asked if they had any ideas. I also WANT my children to have connections with their natural family. That isn't a fair statement all encompassing statement to make.





Yes, I believe most parents have an idea of what they'd like to name their child.
Reply:Sometimes they do, and sometimes the adopted parents change it, because they want to make the baby their own.


Perhaps your birthparents gave you a name of their own, but let your adopted parents choose your official name.


I dunno if you could find it out through the agency or not.
Reply:I was told by the agency that I could not name her. I thought that was just the way it was. So her name was baby girl G. She was in fostercare for 6 weeks due to a health problem (I had no idea) and she says her amom said she had a name but can't remember what it was. That was 37 years ago.
Reply:I didn't. I knew her parents were allowed to change it. I didn't want my daughter to grow up thinking I could have been a (insert name here) instead of who I am. As it turned out, her friends nicknamed her the name I would have probably given her. I say probably because I didn't actually do it. She now goes by both names anyway. Go figure.
Reply:i was given a name by my birth parent, but the middle name was dropped by my adoptive parents, mainly because i was 2yrs by the time the adoption went throught and they thought i would get confused by a name change at that age. that name was on my original birth certificate.
Reply:my sister gave her little girl up for adoption, for protection of the child, her birth father was a drug addict and my sis was afraid of him coming to find her...anyway, she named her little girl emily but her adoptive parents renamed her april because she was born in april.
Reply:I gave birth to my daughter in 1964 when I was 18 yrs old...I was told in the hospital quite emphatically I was not allowed to name my daughter, because the aparents would do this (whoever they would be), even though I did have a name picked out for her.
Reply:Depends, my sister had a name. But she'd lived with her parents for 7 months before she was taken away...my parents changed her name and now she is old enough to have a say she tells us she much prefers the name my parents gave her to the one her biological mother did.
Reply:yes, My mother named me, and my son's mother named him.





Most mothers name their babies-but especially in the 50's and 60's, and even into the 70's that name was never put on any paperwork.
Reply:i named my child bcuz in the state of florida they have 2 birth certificates one with the birth parents name or baby %26amp; last name %26amp; one fo the a.ps when they choose it. It gives him apart of my family even though its just a name
Reply:Yes, first parents usually give their babies a name before they give them away. The adoptive parents usually change it. Most adoptive parents do not want the child to have any connection to their natural family.
Reply:I was given my name by my biological family. I was with them for a short while, like about a month. I was named after my second cousin who died in a car accident ( I only just recently found that out).





My adoptive parents kept that name but gave me middle names and a surname that are all really long and impossible to spell!! I have five names in total. Gah I wish to change them one day.
Reply:I named my daughter on her original birth certificate. I gave her my mother's name (she passed away when I was 13) so no matter what she would always know she was loved that much.
Reply:First mothers have told me directly that they named their babies. Sometimes that name wasn't officially documented, and put down as 'baby girl' or 'baby boy' despite the mother having given their child a name personally
Reply:During the BSE, very few mothers got to name their babies. We were told that we couldn't, didn't have the right. I found upon reunion that my son was named by the Social Worker.
Reply:Dear Lish,





I named mine. The APs changed them. First, middle and (obviously) last as well. I use the names the APs chose but still think the ones I picked in my head.
Reply:Both of my kids first names were given to then by their birth mum. That's the way it stayed, they took on our surname. (They have beautiful names, carefully chose by her we figured why change it.)
Reply:I named my son. The adoptive parents changed it, of course, but all the records I have have the name I gave him on it.
Reply:Justin Gage, I named him Justin Gage.
Reply:yea my biologcal mother gave me the name Niamh when i was born and when my mother adopted me she chose to keep that name, she didn't have to but she did.
Reply:actually the mom to be can talk to the family who is going to adopt and they can decide what to call the child. i had a friend who gave her son up at birth, but she named him. she was (and still is) in contact with the adoptive family. he has started preschool and the family kept the name she gave him. most couples are so glad for the child they will gladly let you name it. and send you updates and photos if you want it.
Reply:Not usually. The adoptive children that are named by biological parents are in the case where bio parents don't give up child until after they have baby and they decide they can't do it!

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